Posted by: Wildpork ®
02/25/2002, 19:14:31
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Did you husband ever Hit you?
If not you have no GOD given right to demand any childsupport or much less the Divorce.
I've been divorced for 15 years and my childsupport issue is almost over, I never got to see my kid because my X accused me of child abuse. May GOD have mercy on her soul.
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Posted by: Wildpork ®
02/25/2002, 19:43:44
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My X pulled a knife on me, I left that night with out looking back for my safety I did try to get coustody of my child but failed to. I never touched her nor did I abuse my child but I do pay my child support!
Modified by Wildpork at Mon, Feb 25, 2002, 19:45:03
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Posted by: Christopher ®
02/25/2002, 19:58:43
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Wildpork, you may or may not have been wronged by your ex-wife. But what in the world does that have to do with Violet and her situation? Are you going to answer Vicki's question? Chris
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Posted by: Vicki ®
02/26/2002, 00:34:55
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My X pulled a knife on me, I left that night with out looking back for my safety I did try to get coustody of my child but failed to. I never touched her nor did I abuse my child but I do pay my child support! Me: WP, why do you think you failed to gain custody of your child? The custody determination was made by a judge wasn't it? While I don't doubt that your situation was difficult, I suspect you have cards you're not showing.
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Posted by: Logan ®
02/25/2002, 19:35:34
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Dear Wildpork... Instead of speculating and invoking your own personal, emotional response, why not just leave Violet alone and tend to your own problems? I've found that time is better spent building yourself and others up, rather than wallowing in self-pity and tearing others down. All the best to you... Lovingly,
Logan
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Posted by: Wildpork ®
02/25/2002, 21:04:10
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Sounds like you should listen to your own advice, And from what I've read you should apologize to Laurie for your harshness
Modified by Wildpork at Mon, Feb 25, 2002, 21:07:19
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Posted by: Çhâñgelîñg ®
02/25/2002, 22:26:24
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Did you husband ever Hit you?
If not you have no GOD given right to demand any childsupport or much less the Divorce.I read some male orientated religious rubbish on this board but you and Logan should get together sometime and compare notes!
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Posted by: Aaron V. ®
02/25/2002, 23:38:45
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Wildpork, You certainly demonstrate obvious bitterness and disdain for life in this post. I feel for your history, but I also pity you. You obviously possess a great deal of ignorance on this matter, and should have kept these "thoughts" to yourself. I would implore you to use the 'edit' function on your post, and relieve yourself of any further embarrassment. Aaron (edited for typos)
Modified by Aaron V. at Tue, Feb 26, 2002, 03:12:35
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Posted by: Logan ®
02/25/2002, 19:21:07
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Dear Violet... I am so happy for you. I knew that with perseverence and determination you could make it through anything! Please try to enjoy your newfound freedom and do take care of yourself. =) Lovingly, Your Friend,
Logan
Modified by Logan at Mon, Feb 25, 2002, 19:22:17
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Posted by: rdl ®
02/25/2002, 20:21:21
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Violet,
I commend you for your perseverance and wish you all the best to come. Being a relative late comer to the board I wasn't aware of your situation and admire you for your determination and strength.
My best wishes are with you, as are my hopes for your future.
Deepest regards,
rdl
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Posted by: Çhâñgelîñg ®
02/25/2002, 22:38:49
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You have my heartfelt empathy and best wishes for your oncoming freedom from the dominance you expressed. I don't think any God of any denomination warrents either physical or emotional abuse of anyone, irrespective of the fact men think they are some superior beings. All some have is more physical strength and penises for brains!
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Posted by: Ramona ®
02/26/2002, 08:19:12
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...I certainly hope no woman ever comes to feel that way about me!
AaronMy dear Aaron,
You have shown only intelligence, compassion, reason, and grace. I doubt that you are likely to change to the opposite end of the gamut. I continue to remain an admirer,
Ramona
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Posted by: Aaron V. ®
02/26/2002, 18:39:44
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your sentiments are truly appreciated. This is especially true, as at the moment I am a near poster child for Erikson's 'intimacy vs. isolation' stage of psychological conflict -- which generally occurs around the ages of 18 to 30 (I am 18, in case you didn't know). So it is my hope that I can begin to find people like you, who are so warm and intelligent, and form those closer relationships in physicality. Best regards, Aaron
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Posted by: Ramona ®
02/26/2002, 19:51:20
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your sentiments are truly appreciated. This is especially true, as at the moment I am a near poster child for Erikson's 'intimacy vs. isolation' stage of psychological conflict -- which generally occurs around the ages of 18 to 30 (I am 18, in case you didn't know). So it is my hope that I can begin to find people like you, who are so warm and intelligent, and form those closer relationships in physicality.
Best regards,
AaronAaron, Did you have a recent B-day? And, thank you Ramona
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Posted by: Aaron V. ®
02/25/2002, 23:33:53
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Dear Violet, Congratulations on your success! I wish you the best for your new life, and the possibilities they present to you. Your determination is an example for us all. Best regards, Aaron
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Posted by: Kevin ®
02/26/2002, 11:34:29
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Violet, Congratulations! I'm so happy for you. Thank you for sharing this event with the rest of us! You must have a wonderful sense of release to have gone through this, and a sense of accomplishment from getting through all the legal forms by yourself. Kudos to you! That must have been terribly confusing at times. I know it would have been for me. I wish you all the best, Violet. Thanks for sharing! Kevin P.S. I can't believe we've been posting here for so long! It doesn't seem that long ago!
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Posted by: Gunnar ®
02/27/2002, 04:08:07
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I sincerely hope that this will mark the start of a much happier and more fulfilling life for both you and your children and that you will soon find a compatible mate who cherishes you the way you deserve! Gunnar
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Posted by: JAK ®
02/27/2002, 09:05:20
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Dear violet, I would just like to add my voice in support of you and wish for you much happier times, good times, and opportunity for self-expression which you will find fulfilling. My very best wishes to you! Sincerely,
JAK
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Posted by: phoenix ®
02/27/2002, 14:04:58
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Dear 2think posters,
I just got confirmation that on March 6, 2002 my divorce will be final!! That might sound cold, but to those that have been posting here long enough, they will recognize that as an achievement!
This was not without alot of emotional trial and manipulation on my ex's part. Nor was the decision to follow through an easy one with me. I began posting here in June of 2000, and declared to the posters here that I intended to divorce that fall (Oct. 2000 the thread was titled "Naked"). I never did, and in fact, endured through more emotional trials,abuse, and severe depression that left me barely able to function. It is amazing how one can be so bound by emotional manipulation.
I finally succeeded in taking the steps to my emancipation this last fall(by filing for divorce and starting school) and with several setbacks(emotional and technical) this finalization will be a great achievement for me!
Because he was the sole supporter of our family, and I had no money of my own, I could not secure a lawyer to handle my case. I had to process, file, and figure out all the forms on my own. Many times they were rejected on technicalities, of which would set me back emotionally as well.
Many times my ex would attempt to coerce me into dropping the filing. Many times I almost did, giving up because of the difficulties facing me. He wasn't willing to face his financial responsibilies and I had to fight hard to get what was owed to me and the kids. Just when I would almost give up, he would cause another abusive situation and my resolve would be stronger than ever to continue to find a way out.
Whew! Well, this is probably no big deal for some of you, but for me it is an achievement and that little boost I have needed!
I was beginning to think it would never come about!
Some of you probably thought I had already been through this, but because I was so manipulated and emotionally abused, I was ashamed to admit that I hadn't followed through on that resolution 2 years ago! Well, on March 6, 2002 this will be all but a bad nightmare!
Thanks to all those that have supported me throughout these years!
sincerely,
violetHello Violet,
I am new to this board and have not quit figured it out. But your post really touched me. I, too, went thru a nasty divorce after 20 years of marriage. My ex is also very manipulative and
problematic. He was my "whole life" I didn't think I could survive without him. After a 2 year battle my divorce was finalize on July 16, 2001. Please know there is life and love after your struggle. I battled depression in various forms for atleast 17 of the 20 years. Was put on litium for bipolar disorder..and took it religiously for 8 years. The day my divorce was final I felt so much relief, my stress was gone, much to my surprise my depression was gone..I wasn't bipolar, I just needed to get rid of him. I am no longer on med. and am the happiest I have ever been. Hang in there, you will survive. Just a little note...
Phoenix
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